I decided I needed a new lipstick, so I went to one of the few MAC counters in Stockholm (The one at NK, the staff there is the nicest imo) and asked for their darkest shade. I tried it and loved it immediately – it’s called “Cyber” and is a dark reddish purple. Almost black. I feel like a different person wearing it, which I think is sort of the point of lipstick. Becoming a new person – still yourself of course, but different!
The first time I wore this I got harassed on the subway by no less than two men (one my fathers age, one my grandfather’s age…yikes!). It was awful – one of them even followed me to my stop! Totally ruined my day. (maybe I should write an angry misandrist blog post about how men think women want their attention!) I took these photos when I got home, which is why I look pissed off (I really was!)
(I call this look “Demonic Magical Girl” haha)
Sometimes it’s a real pain in the butt looking different, because people think you’re some kind of exotic object for them to mess with. In fact I am a person and being creeped on by pervs doesn’t really make me happy! The general consensus seems to be that anyone who breaks the norm does so because they want attention, but that simply isn’t true. At least, not for me…
Have you guys ever been harassed because your looks attract attention?
Love the look, have been searching for the right dark lipstick for such a long time – will check that one out. I have definitely experienced unwanted attention, but mostly through glances – which hasn’t bothered me much. However, receiving comments (in a negative tone) isn’t fun, which definitely has affected me – making me more scared to look how I want wherever and whenever I want. For me though, wearing ‘hard’ types of clothing (like spikes, dark make up, etc.) seems to make people back off. While as wearing ‘cute’ or pink seems to invite people in. That’s part of why I like wearing the ‘darker’ styles, to have people back off and leave me alone.
I thought wearing ‘hard’ looks would do just that, repel people… but it seems to have had the opposite effect. It’s just so disheartening to know that I can’t dress the way I like without someone bothering me about it. Some days I just feel like dying my hair back to a normal colour and wearing t-shirts and jeans, just to be left alone.. but I know I wouldn’t feel like myself then. Thanks for your comment, hun! ♥ (and yeah, I really recommend this lipstick! I’m totally obsessed!)